How to stimulate intimacy and sexuality during quarantine. Quarantine means being stuck together for the foreseeable future, and for better or worse, this means you have a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to stimulate the intimacy and sexual connection of your relationship – either with yourself or with your partner. As long as you are minding social distancing when you do have to venture outside and taking care of personal hygiene, there is no reason why quarantine can’t be a time of sexuality and intimate exploration.
Now is the perfect time to be bold, creative, and have an intimate sort of fun so when you come out of quarantine your relationship is stronger and more fulfilling than ever. There are three main categories to explore: intimate connection, sexual creativity, and self-connection.
Let’s explore all the ways you can take advantage of quarantine to better your relationship with yourself and your partner.
Feed Your Intimacy
Your intimate habits with your partner are the foundation of your entire relationship, so it’s important to feed this vital component when you have the chance. Being emotionally connected with your partner is the best way to build an honest, trusting, and strong relationship. Some methods for feeding your intimacy in quarantine include:
Go Back to Hand Holding
The Beatles were on to something when they wrote a song about holding hands. Many relationship experts agree that hand-holding is one of the easiest and simplest ways to connect with your partner. Holding hands is an instant physical connection between people that requires an equal share of attention.
Whether you’re playing with fingers or competing in thumb wars, the idea with intimate hand holding is to focus on touch and ground yourself in the way your partner’s hand feels in your own.
Trade Shower Soaps
Scent is one of our most powerful senses for a reason. Not only are our noses sensitive, but our olfactory senses are tied directly to our memories and emotions. If you’re showering apart, using your partner’s soaps can make you feel closer – and if you’re showering together, bathing each other with your soaps can be a great segue into foreplay.
Remember Your Beginning
Humans rely on shared memories to understand our relationships, so if you want to feed your intimate connection with your partner, it’s a good idea to revisit the very start. Talk about the first time you met, the first time you kissed, the first time you knew you were in love, and engage your memories to strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
If you can manage it at home, you can even recreate your first date with creative lighting, technology, and food delivery services.
Get Creative With your Sexuality
Creativity in the bedroom can mean many things. from exploring new positions and playing out naughty fantasies to moving the location of your hook-ups.
In quarantine, you have a lot of time on your hands to fill, so why not use that time to get creative with anticipating sex? Here are a few ways how to use anticipation for a creative quarantine sex life:
Shop (Online) for New Toys
Bringing toys into the bedroom is a classic way of spicing up your normal sex routine – but where’s the fun in buying a toy by yourself? Take some time and search online for a new toy to use with your partner.
Buying a new toy together starts to build the anticipation of when – and how – it can be used. Plus, if you make a point of tracking the shipping on your package, you can tease the anticipation all the way until delivery. You can find some great options here!
Update Your Google Calendar
Your Google calendar is probably filled with deadlines and reminders for Zoom meetings right now. The calendar doesn’t have to remain so bleak. Pencil in a time and date for your next sex date. Not only does scheduling in the time help you keep the date, but it also gives you an opportunity to build anticipation for the big event by talking about what you and your partner plan to do.
If you share your Google calendar, you can even surprise your partner by creating the event – and reminding them how wanted they are.
Foreplay at a Distance
Who said foreplay has to be done only by your partner? Take a step back – literally – and manage foreplay by yourself while in the same room as your partner.
Foreplay at a distance gives you a chance to take your time. Show your partner how you like to be touched and tease your partner for the inevitable ending climax.
Intimacy With Yourself (Self Connection)
Staying home for quarantine might mean you’re home by yourself – and that’s okay because that gives you the perfect opportunity to connect with yourself. This is a great time to build your intimate relationship with yourself. Here are a few ways to stay in touch with yourself, your body, and your needs:
Sleep in the Buff
You don’t have to be a nudist to benefit from sleeping in the buff. Ditch the pajamas for the night and feel the sheets against your skin. Sleeping in the nude keeps you aware of your body for the whole night. It can help you feel more in-tune with what your body needs, and can also be sexually exciting.
Commit to Self Care
Being at home all the time makes it easy for self-care to be lost in the shuffle. Don’t neglect yourself! Set aside time each week to pamper yourself with luxurious long showers, at-home spa days, food indulgences, and time to just be.
Dedicate Time to Self-Pleasure
Now is the perfect time for sexual self-exploration. Dedicate time to self-pleasure, whether that means watching pornography, playing with a new toy, or finally trying a new technique to blow your own mind.
Take Advantage of Quarantine to Stimulate Your Intimacy and Sexuality
Quarantine is hard on all of us in one way or another. Whether you’re home alone or quarantining with your partner, you can take advantage of this time to reconnect your intimate relationship and reignite your sexuality. Contact Dr. Stacy Friedman for more tips and coaching on how to liven up your sex life.
