Sexual health is an essential component of overall well-being, requiring the same level of awareness and responsibility as any other aspect of health. From the early lessons about “the birds and the bees,” it becomes evident that sexual activity involves far more than just physical interaction. It calls for an understanding of key behaviors, societal perceptions, and the stereotypes surrounding open discussions about sex.

The following outlines five sexual health behaviors highlighting the importance of awareness and responsible behavior while addressing the stigmas and negative connotations that often cloud this deeply personal topic.

Clear Communication

Communication is a great sexual health behavior for being intimate with your partner(s). Sometimes, our feelings, desires, and wants can get lost in translation when we don’t speak up about what we want and need.

One example of clear communication is listing all the dos and don’ts by listing your intentions to your sexual partner(s), this allows them to share their intentions with you. 

When getting involved with another person, communication is the foundation of the relationship you build. Whether it is strictly casual or a lifelong partner, talking, listening, understanding, and respecting personal boundaries is important. 

Clear communication is a skill that many have yet to learn. Struggling to communicate can cause misunderstandings, disrespect, and uncomfortable and dangerous territory. For those who are intimate or new to intimacy, keep the following in mind for this sexual health behavior: 

Consent

Consent is ongoing and clear, and many of us who are just starting to be intimate or have never communicated thoroughly with our partner(s) before may not grasp all aspects of consent. Forget about guessing games and mind-reading. Regarding all forms of intimacy, each step towards intimacy needs verbal and physical “yes.”

This sexual behavior is taking the responsibility to make sure everyone’s needs are met, you and the person(s) you’re with. For those discovering the significant importance of consent, keep in mind the following before engaging in intimacy:

  • Always check for consent: Don’t make assumptions about someone’s desires or limitations.
  • Consent is specific: Permission for one act (like a kiss) isn’t permission for everything.
  • Mixed signals mean stop: If your partner seems unsure or uncomfortable, it’s time to pause, defuse the tension, and have a conversation.
  • Respect boundaries: Go at your partner’s pace and respect their comfort level.

Remember, clear and enthusiastic consent is the foundation for a safe and enjoyable sexual experience. Just like you wouldn’t want someone to pressure you into something you’re uncomfortable with, prioritize your partner’s comfort and enjoyment. That way, you can both have a truly sexy and safe experience.

Sexually Active Isn’t Shameful 

The act of being sexually active is perceived as shameful and is often met by disgraceful words such as “f-boy” or “slut.” Is it not normal to be sexually active and explore intimacy for yourself? The majority of people on this earth explore intimate relationships, whether for sexual satisfaction or within a relationship; either way, pleasure is being explored.

So why is this behavior of shaming others considered normal in our society? If you are sexually active in any shape or form, you may know it is more than just the act. It is a vulnerable position that brings people closer on deeper levels. Whether you are having a one-night stand, casual sex, or in a relationship where you have sex, it does not give anyone the right to criticize others who are doing the same in their own way.

Another sexual health behavior that is happening more often nowadays in our sex-positive society of today is taking away the shame and embracing yourself for who you are. There isn’t any shame in being sexually active, and there shouldn’t be labels about you if you are.

According to Dr. Kate Balestrieri, licensed psychologist and sex therapist, and Raquel Savage, a therapist, and educator, “‘slut shaming’ is a societal construct rooted in misogyny, and its sole utility is to police women’s sexuality. Some people believe that women should be sexually pure or, at the very least, hide the part of themselves that is deemed sexual. These people often are the ones that push back on concepts like women’s sexual empowerment and reproductive rights, and oftentimes, it’s because they have not started doing the work around breaking down schemas they have about sex.”

The power is in our hands to dismantle the stigma behind sexual prowess as a man, woman, or sexually active individual. Not shaming anyone for what they express intimately not only builds a safer space to talk about sex, but it also helps with vulnerability, safety, and overall connection in the bedroom. Without shame to carry, there is more openness and care when it comes to sexual pursuits of all kinds.

 Always Use Protection

When it comes to making the right calls for our sexual health behaviors, condoms seem to be a debate among teens and young adults. The importance of deciding to use a condom when having intercourse is a good sexual health behavior that can protect all involved. However, there is the push and pull of going bare, using the ‘pull out’ method, or one or more people thinking condoms are ‘uncool’ and ‘uncomfortable.’ Condoms, both male and female, are essential tools in preventing unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Being prepared with protection is an excellent sexual health behavior for an enjoyable time with your partner(s). Male condoms are widely recognized for their effectiveness. However, female condoms offer additional protection and control.

It is an internal condom all genders can use before sex for birth control and protection against sexually transmitted infections. It works like other condoms, except that it’s worn on the inside. These options provide a barrier against STIs and can be used with or without male condoms for enhanced protection. By incorporating condoms into sexual practices, individuals can significantly reduce the risk of unintended pregnancies and improve overall sexual health.

Before engaging in sexual intimacy, make sure to read the condom package insert, check the expiration date, make sure there are no tears or defects, use a lubricant to help prevent the condom from slipping and tearing, and store condoms in a cool, dry place.

Making the safe choice of protection is an important step towards a healthy sexual experience for you and your partner(s). Below are potential condom options for your arsenal:

Female Condoms

Male Condoms

Sexual Health Checkups

In the realm of sexual wellness, regular STI checkups hold immense significance. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are alarmingly common, and neglecting them can incur severe health consequences. Fortunately, early detection and treatment through STI checkups can significantly mitigate these risks.

The article emphasizes that STIs can silently wreak havoc on our bodies if left undiagnosed. Timely checkups enable us to identify infections promptly, paving the way for effective treatment and preventing potential complications. This not only safeguards our health but also protects our sexual partners from contracting the infection.

STI checkups empower us to make informed decisions about our sexual well-being. By understanding our STI status, we can approach sexual intimacy with greater awareness and take necessary precautions. Open communication with partners about sexual history and testing is paramount in fostering a healthy sexual dynamic.

Regular checkups, coupled with open communication, are fundamental for promoting sexual wellness. They instill a sense of responsibility towards ourselves and our partners, ultimately creating a safe and enjoyable sexual experience.

As we approach the season of gratitude, let’s not forget to appreciate the healthy sexual behaviors we embrace. Clear communication, enthusiastic consent, and shedding shame around healthy sexuality are all cornerstones of a fulfilling sex life. Remember, protection is key – using condoms and getting regular STI checkups keeps you and your partners safe and healthy. By prioritizing these behaviors, all of us can confidently navigate intimacy and create truly satisfying experiences. Happy holidays and happy (and healthy) sex lives!

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