Journaling is a must for your sexual self-care. Writing in a journal is a great way to inspire creativity, reflect on your thoughts and emotions, set and achieve goals, practice communication, and relieve stress. 

Did you know there’s a way to upgrade your journaling experience? It’s called a bullet journal and the concept was first created by New York designer, Ryder Carroll. The bullet journal provides a simple framework for capturing ideas, tracking goals and tasks, and organizing your thoughts. 

The best part of the bullet journal is that you can design it to meet your unique sexual needs and desires. You don’t have to buy a special notebook. Experiment with the style you like. The pages of your journal will need to be numbered. If you do not want to take the time to write them out, it is recommended to find a paginated notebook. 

Page numbers are important for your erotic bullet journal so you can easily reference the different sections. Feel free to call them “sextions.” You will dedicate the first few pages to creating an index. As you create different sections in your notebook you will write the headers and page numbers in the index.

  Have a large section of the notebook be dedicated to stream of consciousness writing. Give it any header you want, such as “Stream of Sexiness.” This is where the majority of the writing will take place. You will also give yourself the opportunity to look back at what you wrote without judgment. Do not judge yourself for your thoughts or how you write them. See where your erotic thoughts take you. 

One reason the erotic bullet journal is helpful to achieving goals is the process of migration. If you create a to-do list and do not accomplish your goals, you will re-write the tasks on a new page, until the task is complete. Let’s say you read over your stream of consciousness section and you notice you keep writing about how you want to tell your partner something important. Set a goal to tell them, and every time you miss the goal, rewrite the task in your notebook. 

If writing sounds daunting, you can start with your sexual health goals, such as tracking Kegel exercises or your side effects as you start a new birth control option. Start organizing the erotic thoughts in your head by creating lists, such as “Roleplays I Want to Try”, “Tantasies I Want to Keep Secret”, or “Tracking Best Positions for my Back Pain.”

One of the best parts of the index and headers is that you can easily go back to add new ideas later if you do not get all your thoughts out the first time. If you ever find yourself stuck, rather than give up or procrastinate, write about being blocked. You may think of journaling as going to the gym. Getting there is half the battle, but once you’ve started, you’ll find your groove. 

 Did you read the Kiss & Tell article about sexual mantras? Your erotic bullet journal is a great way to keep track of your favorite mantras and even work on creating your own. Looking for more journaling ideas? Try these 5 journals prompts to get started:

  1. What makes you feel the sexiest?
  2. What is your favorite sex scene in a movie or television show? 
  3. Are you holding anything back from yourself? 
  4. Do you have anything you are concerned to tell your partner?
  5. What are your favorite sexual fantasies?  

If you’re comfortable, talk to your friends about different ideas to write about. If you are working with a sex therapist or coach, they can help provide you with more prompts as well. Dedicating a journal specifically to writing about your sexuality is highly recommended. A bullet journal will take your erotic thoughts to the next level. 


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