It’s Couple Appreciation Month. Aside from doing more chores around the house to show your appreciation for your better half, do something far more fun, spice up your sex life.
Let’s face it, when it comes to fulfilling romantic relationships, sex can make or break the bond. Whether you’re having a lot of it or not as much as you’d like, it could all come down to one factor, You’re in a rut and in desperate need of sexual spontaneity and increased pleasure. Falling into a rut is common for couples that have been together a long time and have simply run out of ideas to keep sex hot and fiery. Luckily, things don’t have to stay that way! keep reading to learn five ways to spice up your sex life.
1. Creative, Erotic Foreplay
Mind-blowing sex usually involves equally as mind-blowing foreplay. Along with the classics like neck kisses and making out, you can set the mood with creative choices like aromatherapy or erotic literature. Imagine filling your air diffuser with exotic scents like Sandalwood or Ylang-ylang, then begin reading a hot and steamy novel or poem to your blindfolded lover. You can touch them in all the right places and have them begging for more when you get to the exciting parts. Sound like fun? Give it a try tonight or explore other creative and sexy activities like body paint or food play.
2. Location, Location, Location
Does this scenario sound familiar? You and your lover turn off the lights, slink into your bedroom, undress, and make sweet passionate love to each other. While this is a great way to stay connected and help you sleep like a baby, it can become a real snooze fest after a while. Try changing up your location. Get out of the bedroom and serve yourself up for breakfast on the kitchen table or give them a little living room service while they watch their favorite sport or the evening news!
3. Let the Games Begin
If you’re looking to spice up your sex life, games make thrilling options. Turn your fantasies into a game of truth or dare. You can even alternate pulling slips of paper with your naughtiest fantasies and fetishes written on them out of a bowl for hours of adult entertainment. Feeling too shy to share your fantasies out loud or written down? No worries, your local sex shop is sure to carry all the sex games you need for an orgasmic time including playing cards, dice, couples’ playsets, and more. You’ll thank us later.
4. The Kinkier the Better
Don’t be afraid to turn up the kink in the sheets. BDSM is a style of sex worth trying that emphasizes dominance, control, and submission. Popular BDSM options include bondage and agreed-upon forms of punishment. If you’re a novice to this lifestyle, start with a little pain and pleasure such as a small choke or a spank. It’s important to note, however, that safewords are imperative to ensure the safety of you and your partner during more aggressive acts.
Looking to ease your way into a kinkier lifestyle? Experiment with stimulating your lover’s senses with blindfolds, feathers, hot candle wax, and more. The list of tasty treats and toys is endless.
While some are all about BDSM, others may decide to borrow bits and pieces of the practice to turn up the heat on their already great or lacking sex lives. You may have decided that, unlike R&B/Pop Princess Rihanna, chains and whips don’t excite you. In that case, a little goes a long way. Handcuff them or bind their wrists with ropes to a bedpost for increased control and hours of fun.
We hear it all the time, communication is one of the most important parts of a healthy relationship. If you’re feeling like you’re in a rut and you want to spice up your sex life, have that conversation with your partner. Want to try a new position in bed or switch up your location? Maybe, you want to get risky and do it in a semi-public place? In any case, Whisper it nice and slowly into their ear for tantalizing foreplay or tell them how you feel during a non-sexual moment such as when you’re cooking dinner together or walking the dog. Then, apply what you get from that convo to your next love session.
There you have it! For a hot and spicy sex life during couple appreciation month (actually any month works), try one or all of these five helpful tips and let us know how they worked out for you. Do you have some spicy ideas of your own that didn’t make the list? We’d love to hear about them, contact Kiss and Tell Magazine via email or visit one of our social media channels today to let your ideas be known.
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