I scratch my head all the time because I can’t get my partner to initiate sex more often
How do I get my partner to initiate sex more often, clients keep asking me. I feel like I’m always the one who has to do it otherwise we won’t…
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Matty Silver
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Matty Silver is a Relationship Counsellor and Sex Therapist in Sydney. Her website is www.mattysilver.com.au. Matty also has written the book Sex Down Under.
Swinging aka the lifestyle is a way to break up the monotony in your bedroom
Over the years, I have spoken to many long-term couples who complain that their sex life has become boring. They want advice on how to make it more exciting and…
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What about Scheduling Sex? 5 Simple suggestions
One issue my clients – who have relationship problems – often complain about is the fact that sex is not spontaneous anymore. They remember the early days in their relationship when they…
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What is a Toxic Relationship?
It’s quite amazing how often I see couples in my practice who, in the first session, just fight and accuse each other of the most terrible things. When I ask…
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The known benefits of masturbation
People talk about anything and everything but, for many of us, having a conversation about masturbation is still taboo; we won’t discuss the subject at work or at dinner parties.…
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The Sex Addiction Myth
Whenever a politician, famous celebrity, or sportsperson is caught with his or her pants down, the media go in overdrive. Stories about celebrities with “sex addiction” are extremely popular with…
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Why Women Still Fake Orgasms
It’s been a very long time since Meg Ryan performed her famous fake orgasm scene in the movie “When Harry Met Sally”, where she made all the right noises –…
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Normalizing Sex Using Therapy
It’s quite astonishing that so many of us find it really difficult to talk about sex. You’d think that in today’s world we would be more open-minded than our parents,…
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Who wants sex more men or women?
There’s a common belief that most men want to have sex all the time, but is this really the case? Who wants sex more men or women? Several studies and…
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12 Essential Principles to Defeat Unsatisfying Sex
Why is it that we are shown so many unrealistic sex scenes in movies these days? Couples look into each other’s eyes, become aroused without foreplay and within three minutes…
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Have you heard of Sexsomnia? It’s a thing.
One of my clients, who recently moved in with his girlfriend, called me because she had threatened to break up with him after accusing him of trying to have sex…
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How Religion Impacts Our Sex Lives
I see many people whose sexual problems stem directly from their upbringing. Often they are completely unaware of how religion has impacted them, which is not surprising given they are…
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4 Fantasies to Spice up your Sex Life when you become bored with it
Sharing sexual fantasies with a partner can evoke fears and insecurities. What if your partner finds your fantasy weird or even freaky? When I see couples in my practice, one…
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How to overcome common sexual hangups
Over the years, I’ve realized how many people have sexual hangups. Often they are insecurities, inhibitions, shame, or situations that prevent them from having or enjoying sex. Sexual hangups can…
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Why doctors need better education for sexual issues
Over the years, I have seen many clients experiencing problems relating to sexual issues or suffering from some sort of sexual dysfunction. Many turn to their GPs (general practitioners), but…
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Can you be supportive during erectile dysfunction & performance anxiety
Many of the men I see come to me because they are experiencing erectile dysfunction problems. The men, who vary in age, had previously taken their ability to perform in…
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No way; it’s possible an affair saves a marriage
Experiencing infidelity in a relationship can be hurtful and damaging. The immediate response after discovering a partner’s affair is usually a combination of disbelief, anger, sadness, and grief. Several stories…
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Surprise, What to do in a Sexless Marriage
A sexless marriage is defined as having sex fewer than 10 times a year. In most relationships, sexual satisfaction is a measure of the entire relationship. If a once-satisfying sex…
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Let’s Talk About the Virginity Myth
Historically, the hymen has been the focus of many traditions and the marker of a woman’s virginity. Much mystery and many myths surround the hymen, which in many cultures is…
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Why You Need to Shake Off Your Sex Shame
Feelings of sex shame can be devastating to our sex lives. One of the biggest obstacles many of my clients face in experiencing erotic pleasure is the sexual shame they…
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