Masturbation is seen through many lenses although one lens not discussed often is the history of masturbation from ancient traditions. I wanted to end May aka Masturbation month by paying tribute to its origins. Enjoy!

Who knows the original meaning of the word, masturbation?         

“The long-standing speculation is that this Latin word is altered (probably by influence of turbare “to disturb, confuse”) from *manstuprare, from manu, ablative of manus “hand” (see manual) + stuprare “defile” (oneself), from stuprum “defilement, dishonor,” related to stupere “to be stunned, stupefied” (see stupid). Hence the earliest form of the word in English.”


 On the Internet now we find this definition very different and that’s good. With masturbation, we find healthy mental conditioning. With 2020 COVID almost everyone suffered mental health issues, crisis, and/or trauma. For healthy states of mind and body, self-care is of the utmost importance. Self Pleasuring is the highest vibration of self-care and self-love.     

As a sexuality educator and counselor, my colleagues and I recommend self-pleasuring as the most important path to total Body Health and Mental Focus with an Intent of Self Love. When one takes time to make a ritual of masturbation-self pleasuring then self-esteem heightens through the bodily senses.     

In ancient traditions, masturbation is called self-pleasuring. We do self-pleasuring rituals on the New Moon, Full Moon, Equinoxes, and Solstices so that we connect with the vibration of Mother Nature. We build our erotic energy up to the point of orgasm and then we drop it down, do deep breathing, find our focus of intent, and build the orgasm energy up once again.

We do this 4 times and on the final expression of total turn on we release into a whole-body experience that opens up the imagination and creative mind. We call this Heart Pleasuring! We have one Body that lives through many lifetimes in a span of a life cycle on Earth. We need to sustain healthy mental attitudes and this must include our body senses and the whole experience of orgasmic energy.

The nurturing touch of another brings a sense of love and attention, complete well-being. However, our own nurturing touch and creating a daily, weekly, monthly touch- pleasuring ritual to ceremonially honor our holy temple/painted rainbow lodge/body brings about increased mental, emotional, physical health and well-being! Self Pleasuring-masturbation opens the heart and we find compassion within, for ourselves, life and others.

In one of my teacher’s books, The Tao of Sexology, the Book of Infinite Wisdom, by Dr. Stephaen T. Chang, the ancient teachings of the power of erotic energy-life force energy has been practiced for thousands of years and gives us a path to healing and well being. The correct use of erotic life force or kundalini energy and ritual which contains 4 steps or waves of orgasm energy can overcome any anxiety, worry, self-sabotage, and fears that were placed upon us, especially in 2020 from the news and social media.

What if we had been counseled to include self pleasuring-masturbation to relieve our worries? 

We would build our sense of hope, strength, and courage which builds our immune system. Can you make time to take a sensuous bath, light candles, anoint our body with oils, listen to higher vibrational music, allow an hour for total immersion into stimulation towards orgasm, coming to orgasm or not, maintaining an edge of unbelievable pleasure? As stated in the article Scientific Insights of an Orgasm by R Eisenman “The orgasm releases endorphins, which are responsible for good feelings in people. Endorphins can both give pleasure directly and also decrease any pain a person is feeling. Thus, they are very important brain chemicals.”   

We become fully embodied, head to toe. If we give our attention to every part of our body and the orgasm energy moving through the kundalini channels then we release other thoughts that hamper our well-being – senses of hope, strength, and courage to face each new day. Now is a good time to start. Go to the edge of orgasm with self pleasuring-masturbation with good intent for healing the body.

Orgasmic Energy is our Life Force! Go for it and find a positive mental health attitude and approach to daily life.

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