Not all lubricants are created equal, some market themselves as extra lubricating for anal play, some tasty for oral, and others for warming or tingling sensations for heightened arousal. But in the heat of the moment, do you want to have to sort through your copious amounts of lubrication bottles to find the right one for the occasion? 

Lubricants can lead to some very enjoyable, slippery, silky, and messy (in a good way) sex. But have you ever bought lubricants that stain the sheets? Or left you a sticky mess smelling of artificial fruits or take a couple of washes to get out of your hair? Good news, your kitchen is most likely brimming with alternative ingredients for a natural, edible, and incredibly smooth homemade lubricant to enjoy over and over and over again.

A good base for a homemade lubricant can be found in your kitchen.

  • Coconut oil 
  • Virgin olive oil
  • Avocado oil 
  • Almond oil 
  • Aloe Vera (but make sure it’s 100%, if it contains additives, that could make for an unpleasant experience, especially if you’re sensitive). 
  • Cornstarch and water – yes you heard that right! Bring 1 cup of water to a boil, add 2-4 teaspoons of cornstarch and stir till desired consistency (obviously let it cool) and you’re good to go!

DO NOT use or at least know the issues that can occur.

  • Petroleum-based liquids like Vaseline and baby oil aren’t really good for sex toys or condoms, and because they can linger in the body quite a while after use, you could find yourself sadly dealing with a yeast infection.
  • Shampoos, lotions,  or soaps – generally these products have chemicals and artificial fragrances that you shouldn’t introduce your sensitive and important parts to. 

Are you a fan of sandalwood, jasmine, lavender, or the fragrant slightly fruity floral scent of ylang-ylang (which is also known to be an aphrodisiac, winning!)? Add a couple of drops of your favorite essential oil to your base, but do check the ingredients on the bottle to make sure there aren’t any additives.

Sex Toys

To know which lube to make and play with, open your drawer of fun and check what materials your sex toys are made of. For example, most oil-based lubes can break down materials like plastic or silicone, which could potentially ruin one of your favorite toys. Yet water-based lubes are perfectly safe (and easier to clean when you’re done). If you enjoy porcelain or glass sex toys, then all lubes are safe.

Recommendation on lube base – cornstarch and water – although it may be a little work in the kitchen to make, it is completely safe with toys, super cheap, AND who doesn’t have cornstarch and water around? 

Condoms – Latex vs Non-Latex 

Latex – you want to avoid any oil-based lubes when using latex condoms. Latex is made from natural rubber that oil can cause to break or split, increasing the risk of all the reasons why you wear a condom – pregnancy and STIs. 

Non-Latex – Sorry, you have to do some reading. Check the box and see what the condoms are made of, these are the two main materials in non-latex condoms. 

Polyisoprene – No oil-based, but water-based and silicone-based lubes are ok. 

Polyurethane – All the lubes, have fun! 

Now that you have a little info on items around the house that you make a great home made lube out of, and now you know which lubes play nice with different sex toys and condoms, here’s two great recipes, one for water-based lube and one for oil-based, depending on whats in your pantry and your bedside drawer.

Water-Based Lubricants

  • Mix one cup of water and 4 teaspoons of corn starch in a saucepan.
  • Put the stove on low to medium heat and slowly bring the liquid to a boil.
  • Once it’s boiling, stir the mixture frequently for about 30 seconds.
  • Take the pot off the heat and add 5 drops of your favorite essential oil.
  • Definitely let it cool before using. 

Oil-Based Lubricants

  • 1 part aloe vera (some people may have reactions to aloe vera, make sure you’re not one of them!)
  • 1 part coconut oil, avocado oil, almond oil (obviously NOT if you have any allergies to nuts)
  • 5 drops of your favorite essential oil.

Now that you have the basics, get creative with your homemade lube recipes, and let us know if you create one that you must share with us! K&T and our readers are always looking for new recipes, ideas, or fun ways to spice up our lives.

Christina Timms | Kiss and Tell

Christina Timms is a freelance SEO blog writer, editor, and social media & content manager. She has been working with K&T as our social media manager and now she is the marketing/PR manager. She loves being a part of the K&T family and believes in our mission to openly discuss topics of sex, health and relationships.


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