Cardi B. and Megan Thee Stallion boast about the “WAP”. The vagina is “wet” and ready for sex and play. Wet is another way of saying lubricated; sometimes this can only be achieved by using a lubricant. When you become aroused your body will begin to respond. For some women that means swelling of the labia and clitoris, hardening of nipples, and the vagina becoming lubricated. Your body does this to help with the friction caused by penetration. Using lubricant and being lubricated helps penetration feel more comfortable and enjoyable.  

So far we have established that your vulva is wonderful and has built-in sexual support! While I love what the body naturally does, some of us need a little support. Lube helps to provide the extra moisture that is needed for self-pleasure or partner play. 

Different Lubricant Options

  Oil based Silicone Based Water Based Hybrid based (water and silicone)
Use w/condoms ❓(can break down latex & polyisoprene) ✔️ ✔️ ✔️
Use w/sex toys ✔️ Not w/silicone toys ✔️ Not w/silicone toys
Easy Clean up ✔️
Absorb quickly   ✔️

The type of lube you choose may be based on a lot of things. Some questions to consider:

  • Solo play
  • Partner sex
  • Frequent yeast infections
  • Clean up
  • Length of sexual interaction
  • Toys
  • Condom use
  • Pain
  • Purpose

You can use lube even if your body naturally produces vaginal wetness. Our experience in sex can wax and wane at the moment. Sometimes your drive may outlast our juicy goodness and other times you may want a little extra slippery moist wetness just for fun. Lube helps keep the experience pleasurable and playful. 

Caution: There are some ingredients in lubes that are not easily tolerated by the vagina:

  • paraben
  • EDTA
  • glycerin 
  • polyquaternium
  • non-oxynol 9
  • menthol 
  • petroleum 
  • capsaicin
  • chlorhexidine
  • herbal extracts 
  • propylene glycol 
  • oils (like olive oil) can break down condoms and skin and can lead to bacterial infections. AVOID fragrances as they can irritate the vaginal mucosa

Where do I find lubricants? 

In drug stores, lubrication products are usually displayed near the pharmacy (prescriptions). Stores selling organic foods usually have a ‘health’ aisle. Often, you will find them located with other vaginal care and hygiene products. You can also check online at, and, even though I have found the ‘Vermont Country Store’ catalog carries great lubes. Lubricants can also be purchased on Amazon. You can also use Google to look up the brand and go to its website.

A few of my favorites include:

Our bodies are forever changing. Efficient lubrication is important to the sexual experience. It helps prevent tearing, can increase comfort, and allow for exploration. Have sex that is wet, playful, connecting, messy, funny, slippery, and focused on pleasure, comfort, and eroticism.

Slippery. Moist. Wet. Gooey. Messy. Warm. Be bold and say yes to lubrication!